About Life Goals

Tonight, I had a pretty thought provoking and insightful chat with a friend of mine.

We touched base on basically... Everything. From career to men, but most importantly on our individual personalities and goals.

Beware, for this might potentially be an extremely boring and ponderous write-up, but I'm tempted to jot this down to remind myself (and to bore everyone else who's reading this to death) to do a reality check.

A fraction of society plans for what they want to achieve in life regardless of short or long term goals. Short term goals of obtaining short term happiness and long term goals of achieveing long term fulfillment. I could party and splurge on make up and clothes to reward myself now, but I would need a sound agenda to lay up big ticket items moving forward.

That said, I have been defaulting on my long term plans and focusing too much on my short term happiness. I have no health concerns, no financial worries, no career misfits; I lead a stable life at the moment. Why should I worry so much about the future?

During my schooling days, I've always had plans to earn my first million, an MBA, a high end vehicle and property with a side business to boost, before reaching the age of 30. Highly motivated and even an overachiever some might say. On the other hand, we've been seeing young, successful and capable entrepeneurs making it big in their 20's.

Over the years, I've gradually begun to sink into my "Comfort zone". I no longer feel the constant need to strive for my planned goals. In other words, I'm just going with the flow; languidly losing ambition hence, not really knowing what I want to achieve in life anymore and unconciously procrastinating and pushing my plans backwards. Yes, I still want to earn big bucks and to be a more wholesome person, but by when and how?

A plan will always remain a plan and perhaps a dream if its all lodged as thoughs without actions. And no, I honestly do not think I'm being harsh on myself, I just need an ocassional wake up call.

Many would say that life's short, live everyday like its the last day of your life. I need to relax and just go with the flow and grow as the years comes by. Agree, but to what extend though? Insurance companies and retirement funds would not exist if that's the case.

The first statement is what I meant by being contented and being stuck in the "Comfort zone". I'm in that zone and I don't want that. I do not want to be immobolized as a typical executive till the age of 30; a manager at the age of 40; and if I get lucky, a senior manager when I retire, just because its a social norm. Let me reiterate this, I do not want to be like that. I might not achieve all the afformentioned goals that I've had planned, but at least I tried. At this point in time, I don't think I'm even trying hard enough.

Having said that, I want to achieve something. Not everyone has the same goals in life or identical dreams. I can't succumb to pressure from society nor do I vie to become the next Steve Jobs, but the least I can do is to challenge myself to be a better person. I can do better than this and so can you.

Reality Check!!!